Mental Wellbeing Test Completed
Your result

Relationships

Your answers pointed most clearly to relationships. The pattern seems to show up in the way you connect, communicate or deal with difficult moments with other people. You may be getting caught in some of the same misunderstandings, conflicts or feelings of distance again and again.

1
The same arguments, misunderstandings or disappointments may keep coming back.
2
You may find it hard to say what you need, want or are not okay with before frustration builds.
3
You may sometimes withdraw, people please, get defensive or react in ways you later wish you had handled differently.
4
You may feel less understood, supported or connected to the people you care about than you want to feel.
Important: This result is not meant as a diagnosis, and it does not mean one person is to blame. It is simply a summary of the pattern that showed up most clearly in your answers.

What relationship problems can look like on a normal day

Relationship problems do not always look like one huge fight. Often they show up in small moments that keep repeating until there is more distance, tension or resentment than either person wanted.

Something bothers you. You say it is fine, but you keep thinking about it and your tone changes anyway.
You need something from someone. Instead of asking clearly, you hope they notice. When they do not, it feels like they should have known.
A small disagreement starts. One of you becomes defensive, the other pushes harder, or someone shuts down completely.
You want to say no. You say yes because you do not want to disappoint anyone, then feel annoyed that you agreed.
You are together. But one of you is on the phone, thinking about work or mentally somewhere else, so there is very little real connection.
The argument is over. The conversation has stopped, but you replay it, stay cold or wait for the other person to make the first move.

What does this result actually mean?

This result means that recurring problems with connection, communication, conflict, boundaries or social support seem to explain your answers better than the other areas in the test.

Take a simple example.

You feel overlooked. You do not say it directly because you do not want another argument.

You become quieter. The other person notices the distance and gets defensive or pulls away.

Now you feel even less understood, and both of you walk away thinking the other person is the problem.

The original issue may have been small. The pattern around it is what made it bigger.

Sometimes stress, anxiety or other problems can feed into relationship difficulties too. And if a relationship involves fear, threats, violence, stalking or controlling behaviour, ordinary communication training is not the right answer.

Why can the same relationship problems keep coming back?

Most people were never formally taught how to have a difficult conversation, say what they need, set a boundary or stay present when emotions are high.

So we often fall back on whatever we learned before. We avoid. We hint. We defend ourselves. We push harder. We shut down. We try to make the other person understand before we have clearly explained what is happening for us.

Then the other person reacts to that response, and we react to theirs. Before long, the pattern becomes bigger than the thing that started it.

Relationship research shows that communication during conflict matters, but there is not one perfect way to handle every disagreement. What helps depends on the problem, the people involved and what can realistically change.3

What is the actual problem right now?Try to separate this issue from everything else that has ever gone wrong.
What am I assuming instead of saying clearly?If you need something, say it instead of expecting the other person to guess.
What part of this is actually mine to change?You cannot control another person, but you can work on how you communicate, respond and set limits.

Those questions do not solve every relationship problem.

But they move the focus away from trying to control the other person and toward the part of the relationship you can actually work on.

A lot of people struggle with connection

Relationship problems can look very different. Some people are surrounded by others and still feel disconnected. Some are in a relationship but keep getting stuck in the same conflicts. Feeling alone or disconnected is more common than it can seem.

13%In early 2024, more than 1 in 10 people in Canada aged 15 and older said they always or often felt lonely.1
2.2MAbout 2.2 million Canadians aged 25 to 54 were always or often lonely in early 2024.12
In early 2024, loneliness was reported most often by younger Canadians
15 to 24
17%
25 to 54
14%
55 to 64
11%
65 plus
10%

Statistics Canada, Canadian Social Survey, first quarter of 2024. The numbers show people who said they always or often felt lonely.1

Relationship difficulties are not a sign that you are the only person who has not figured this out. People who look completely sorted from the outside have spoken openly about having to work on their relationships too. For example:

Pink

Pink has spoken openly about couples counseling with her husband Carey Hart. She said that over time they had started speaking different languages to each other, and that counseling helped them understand and communicate with each other better.4

Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard

Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have also spoken openly about couples counseling. Bell has described therapy as a useful tool rather than something to be embarrassed about, while Shepard has talked about how different their backgrounds were when they first got together.5

What can actually change in everyday life?

The goal is not to make every relationship perfect. It is to get better at the moments where your own communication, boundaries and reactions can change what happens next.

Before
What can change
When something bothers you
You hold it in, hope they notice and become more frustrated when they do not.
You say what is bothering you earlier and make the actual issue easier to understand.
During disagreement
You defend, attack, shut down or bring five old problems into the same conversation.
You stay closer to the problem in front of you and explain what you need without turning it into a fight about everything.
When someone is upset
You feel responsible for fixing their mood, changing their opinion or making them happy again.
You can care about how they feel without making every feeling your responsibility.
Boundaries
You say yes when you mean no, then resentment grows underneath.
You become clearer about what works for you and say it before the frustration gets bigger.
After conflict
The conversation ends, but the argument keeps going in your head for the rest of the day.
You reflect on what happened, decide what still needs action and stop turning one disagreement into the whole relationship.
Time with people you care about
You are physically there, but distracted, on your phone or mentally somewhere else.
You become more deliberate about actually being available when you are with people who matter to you.

Structured relationship programs have been shown to improve communication and relationship satisfaction in research, although results vary and that does not prove what any one program will do for you.6

A simple way to start on your own

The next time you need to have a difficult conversation, slow it down and work through these four questions before you begin.

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What actually happened?

Describe the situation without adding what you think the other person meant by it.

2
What do I need them to understand?

Put the real issue into one simple sentence instead of making them guess.

3
What part is mine?

Notice your own reaction, assumption or behaviour before you focus only on what they did wrong.

4
Who do I want to be in this conversation?

Decide how you want to speak and act before frustration decides it for you.

The hard part is doing it when the old pattern starts

It is easy to know that you should communicate clearly when everything is calm.

It is harder when you feel ignored, criticised, rejected, angry or afraid of disappointing someone. That is when old habits can come back very quickly.

That is where practice matters. The training cannot control another person or guarantee what they will do. It is meant to help you get better at the part you can influence: understanding your own patterns, communicating more clearly, setting boundaries and choosing how you respond.

Stop repeating the same relationship problems with the people you care about

Learn how to say what you actually mean before frustration turns into resentment. Set boundaries without feeling guilty for having them. Have difficult conversations without either exploding, shutting down or pretending everything is fine.

Stop expecting people to read your mind. Stop making yourself responsible for everyone else's feelings. Notice the patterns you keep bringing into your relationships before they create the same problem again.

The goal is not to control other people. It is to become much better at the part of a relationship you can control: how you understand yourself, communicate, set limits and respond.

Say what you need before frustration builds into resentment.
Handle difficult conversations without turning one problem into a fight about everything.
Set clearer boundaries without automatically feeling guilty for having them.
Stop expecting other people to guess what you need or how you feel.
Need less reassurance from other people to feel secure in yourself.
Notice your own part in repeating patterns and work on what you can actually change.

How the training actually works

Over about 52 days, you work with one practical tool at a time. Each tool is used for about four days, so you have time to try it in your own life before moving on.

Some tools help you understand your own thoughts, beliefs and patterns. Others work with communication, conflict, boundaries, self worth and the kind of person you want to be in your relationships. The aim is not to watch a pile of videos once. It is to practise the tools in real situations until you have better options when the same difficult moments show up again.

About 52 daysA clear path from start to finish
Daily videosShort teaching you can use the same day
10 to 20 minThe normal daily time
13 toolsPractical exercises and worksheets
Søren Lynge
The person behind the training

Meet Søren Lynge

Søren Lynge has spent more than 20 years working with mental training in Scandinavia. He founded Lyngemetoden, has delivered more than 4,500 talks and has written 10 books about mental training and personal development.7

20 plusyears working with mental training
4,500 plustalks delivered
10books published

His style is direct and practical. He is less interested in giving people one more explanation to think about and more interested in what they can actually practise when worry shows up in ordinary life.

That is the idea behind this training too. Understand the pattern, then practise a different response often enough that you have something useful to do when the moment comes.

Real customer reviews

What people say after working with Lyngemetoden

These reviews were originally posted in Danish about Lyngemetoden. We have translated them directly into English. They describe people's own experiences with Lyngemetoden's longer programs. Results naturally differ from person to person. As you scroll, you can also watch some customer stories in their own words.

4.7 / 5 486 reviews on Trustpilot8
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I have become free of my anxiety

I have become free of my anxiety, I have received tools to tackle it, so the anxiety is there, but is not allowed to ruin my life.
It is a 7 month program, where every day I receive a small video, with guidance for this week's tool, you get a total of 32 tools that you can pull out….

It is in no way a quick fix, but hard work. But it works, nothing else I have tried has worked. The tools mean that you can keep yourself in check. And constantly fill out the papers when something new comes up in your everyday life.

I had Rene Bering Kier as mental trainer, Rene is listening, a calm person who quietly contributes, around the tools, but also not afraid to say, that is not good enough. And that tool I got through too easily, again.

Only positive from here.

RikkeDK · 17 reviewsApr 12, 2026
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A better life

If you want to work on yourself, this is simply fantastic.
I sleep when I am supposed to sleep at night. I decide when I am going to worry.
I can decide for myself what I want to focus on. The thoughts that do me good.
I started with a talk with Søren. Then all episodes of the podcast "Mental Success". That got me on my way. But a 7 month program took me even further.
I am developing quietly and steadily, better self-esteem, am happier, more social, more aware of my thoughts. Wish that children and young people could learn to use the tools. Thank you to Søren, Solvejg and the rest of team Lynge

KristinaDK · 4 reviewsJul 13, 2026
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My journey with Lyngemetoden

My program with Lyngemetoden has been a life-changing journey. Before I began, my life was to a large extent characterized by worries and racing thoughts, which often stood in the way of my wellbeing and my focus in everyday life.
Through Lyngemetoden's tools I have gained a completely new perspective on life. I have learned to make conscious choices that support a healthy and balanced life, both physically and mentally. The tools are incredibly applicable in many different contexts, and they have strengthened my way of being in life. I now experience greater calm, clarity and ability to act in both my private and working life.
A large part of the success is due to my mental trainer, Brian Bersang. Brian has a deep insight into Lyngemetoden's tools and manages to communicate them with both presence and professionalism. He has been a fantastic support throughout the entire program, always ready with relevant input, whether it was about big life choices or small everyday challenges. He had a fine sense of the pace in my development and created a safe space where I could grow at my own pace.
I can warmly recommend both Lyngemetoden and Brian Bersang to everyone who wants to create lasting, positive changes in their life.

Lotte Sommer Kiel HolmDK · 1 reviewsOct 7, 2025
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“Not overnight but step by step. Today I stand on a foundation that gives me calm, clarity, and a joyful life.”
Trine · Denmark
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A big difference, in small pieces

Lyngemetoden.dk gets my biggest recommendation. I have struggled with anxiety and stress and after listening to more than 100 episodes of their podcast and attending talks, I decided to try their 7 month program, I really have not regretted that. It changes one's approach to life, if one wants to work for it. The program is simple and structured and it works well with the App, the tools and the 10 minute daily video training. I chose my own mental trainer based on their video presentations and it has really just worked from day 1 with Anton. I have felt from the start that we clicked well and it has meant a lot that we are both at a place in life with children and family. Anton is friendly, calm, punctual and down-to-earth. He has been incredibly sharp when I have needed to discuss some challenges or been in doubt about which tool should be used in a given situation. After every conversation he has pointed out that he is only one message away and it has meant a lot to me to know that help is always available. Anton has really given me the drive to work hard through the program, because it IS hard to change your mindset, but definitely all worth it! Huge praise to Anton and thank you to Lyngemetoden for the tools, talks and podcast.

Casper RavnDK · 15 reviewsApr 14, 2026
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It has changed my life

Before I started in Lyngemetoden 7 months ago, I struggled daily with both anxiety and anxiety attacks, I was stressed and depressed and felt like a huge zero, and constantly felt that I was not worth anything to anyone, I had no self-esteem. I did not feel I had energy for anything.

Then my girlfriend introduced me to Lyngemetoden, where she herself has also been in a program, and then she did the most beautiful thing and helped me sign up for a 7 month program.
I chose to get Brian Bersang Mølgaard as mental trainer. And I am insanely happy that I did. When you talk with Brian, you get a feeling that you are talking with someone who could be your best friend, because he makes you feel safe and you feel that you can tell and ask about everything, because you also know that the answer you get is super professional and there is simply no b..llshit. So huge thumbs up and mega thank you to Brian for making such a big difference, especially for me. 💪🥰

So after I have finished my 7 month program, I am now largely set free from my anxiety and I have learned to use and live by many of the tools that I have received through Lyngemetoden and Brian, and I continue to listen to the podcast Mental Succes, which has become my new playlist in the car🥰🥳 it gives me a kick to listen to Lyngemetoden and it has made my everyday life more beautiful and happier🤩❤❤ I can only recommend others who are doing mentally badly to give themselves a program at Lyngemetoden, because it works and is the only way if you want to help yourself, or others💪😎🥰

Peter Friis AmmonsenDK · 1 reviewsSep 11, 2025
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My journey with the Lynge method

In 2023 I go on sick leave with anxiety and stress and in 2024 I have then been at home for a year and at that time I am so plagued by anxiety and stress that I do not go anywhere
I move a little forward and in Dec 2024 I enter an internship in a kindergarten where I become acquainted with the Lynge method.
Now we say 2025 and I have completed a 7 month life-changing course at the Lynge method
I do not have anxiety anymore. That means that I go to the cinema to a café for a walk in the forest
Yes I have no limitations ….. only possibilities …..
my mindset has changed so that now I also have dreams and look forward to every day I get up
Throughout my whole journey Sabine Søgaard has stood on the sideline and I am so grateful to her that she told me about the Lynge method
So if you need a fantastic mental trainer then choose Sabine Søgaard

Rikke DammandDK · 1 reviewsOct 19, 2025
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⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5 out of 5 stars to…

I have just completed a 7 month program at Lyngemetoden, and it has been life-changing.

When I started, my psychological vulnerability was a fixed part of my everyday life. Every Monday my body said no, and I could do nothing but lie on the sofa for the rest of the day. I was constantly tired, heavy in both body and mind and in deficit. For many years I had tried to get better through many hours with psychologists, without much effect, and felt that I had lost myself.

I started their 14 day free program after a talk, and already there I could feel a clear difference. It gave me hope. Therefore I chose to go all in on the 7 months.

I listened every day, wrote notes and filled 10 notebooks. It required hard work, but it worked. Along the way I also got the opportunity to be in their podcast and participate in an English interview, where I shared my story. It meant a lot to feel like part of a community.

Today I stand stronger than ever before. My psychological vulnerability barely fills anything anymore. I have not just gotten better, I have got myself back.

It is bittersweet to finish a program that has meant so much, but I leave here with strength, calm and concrete tools that I will use for the rest of my life.

Thank you for your work. You make a huge difference.

Line MoldtDK · 7 reviewsFeb 28, 2026
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4 months later.....

It is now 4 months since I finished my 7 month program in Lyngemetoden and I have deliberately waited a little before writing my review of the program I had with Per. Not because I was dissatisfied, but because I wanted to see whether all the good things I had learned during the 7 months would also now 'stick'.

I started in Lyngemetoden because I had been through a very hard stress-filled project, which cost me sleep at night, mood, desire to work and generally the joy of 'life'. The project filled everything in my life for the 9 months it lasted, and in addition to stress also triggered anxiety reactions.

In short, that project brought me much further out than I wanted.

So my approach to my program was to get control of my stress, learn to handle it, and get rid of stress completely.

Let me just make a long story short. I did not just overcome stress in the first 4 weeks, I am now also at a place where I in no way see myself experiencing stress ever again.
I have learned an incredible amount about myself, trained myself to think correctly, take control of my life in all situations, learned to see the signs of situations that can lead to something bad and steer around them. I have become a complete Captain of my own ship. I stand strong mentally and physically again (because I once again got the energy to be active), I know and accept my role, I set boundaries and communicate and have a huge amount of energy to help others, guide them and advise my colleagues/employees in my projects.

I could keep telling about my development and about how I daily use the tools Lyngemetoden has given me to help myself and others, but it would become very long.

I will simply end by saying thank you for the program and thank you to Per Corneliussen for always being present, putting things into perspective, challenging and supporting, thank you for everything.

Jesper Imhof RosendahlDK · 18 reviewsJul 27, 2026
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“I just needed tools that I could actually get in my hands. And that is exactly what you get from this program.”
Marie · Denmark
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A new start to life

I want to start by saying that Lyngemetoden has changed my entire life. Never in my wildest imagination did I think that I could have as good a life as I have today, all thanks to Lyngemetoden, Søren and especially my fantastic mental trainer Brian. Since I was 11 years old I have struggled with panic anxiety, low self-esteem and extreme overthinking. In some periods of my life I had anxiety attacks every single night, something I thought I would never break free from. I was convinced that it was something I would have to live with for the rest of my life. Today I am completely free from anxiety. I feel free socially, thrive absolutely fantastically and have far more courage in life.
I am grateful for my life every single day and I wake up happy every morning.
The daily videos and mental tools from Søren are absolutely fantastic. Combined with the support, understanding and feedback I have received from my absolutely fantastic mental trainer Brian, these have been the building blocks that have given me, I dare say it, a completely new life.
I sincerely hope that Søren can bring this out to the whole world. I simply could not be more grateful for Lyngemetoden.
A thousand thanks❤️

LucaDK · 2 reviewsApr 10, 2026
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THANK YOU!

Lyngemetoden is clearly something I will recommend to EVERYONE! It has taught me to be in the present, all the tools and conversations with my mental trainer Claus, have given me a completely new life, and an awareness of how much you can control your thoughts! It has given me a self-esteem I have never had before, taught me to look positively at things even in pressured situations, create structure, new healthy habits and planning in my everyday life, the list is long, but all this has meant that my energy and surplus have exploded, my anxiety and stress are almost non-existent, my head has found calm! THANK YOU Lyngemetoden and to Claus for being able to see which tools could help me when it was difficult! 🫂🙏

Simone VossDK · 3 reviewsNov 3, 2025
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I have just completed a 7 month…

I have just completed a 7 month program in Lyngemetoden with Christoffer as mental trainer, and it has been a really cool and strong experience. The combination of daily videos, video conversations, exercises, Zoom sessions and podcast works super well and gives a coherent and structured program.
I have previously struggled with overthinking, negative thoughts and destructive thought spirals, but the program has shown me, if you are willing to make an effort and work on yourself, you can let go of all this negativity. If I have to say it in words it is: Present! I am a better version of myself with the people I am together with in the present and do not think about all sorts of other things in the future or the past.
Huge thanks to Christoffer, Søren and the whole team behind Lyngemetoden. You do fantastic work and really help people move forward!

VictorDK · 4 reviewsJan 8, 2026
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My journey with Lyngemetoden: From lack of overview to big goals

Before I started at Lyngemetoden, I simply had no idea which way I should go, and I had absolutely no overview of anything at all in the beginning. I completely lacked structure and clear goals in my everyday life.

The program has very much changed that. Today I know exactly what I need to do, and I know exactly how I will get there. I have gained a fixed structure, set myself big goals and have gained significantly better self-esteem.

In the beginning it was difficult for me even to see the points where I was improving. But now, when a little over a year has passed, it is completely surreal to look back at how extremely much I have actually moved forward.

A huge thank you must go to Mark Sørensen, who has been my mental trainer along the way. His help has made an enormous difference for me. I can warmly recommend Lyngemetoden to everyone who needs to find direction, create structure and move forward mentally.

Theodor GadeDK · 4 reviewsMay 17, 2026
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Thank you to Per and Lyngemetoden for a…

Thank you to Per and Lyngemetoden for a really good program.

I am very grateful for the many mental tools that both I and my family have taken with us. I have especially liked Lyngemetoden's structured approach, where week by week you get new, exciting tools to work with.

These are tools that I will definitely continue to implement in my own and my family's life for many years to come. Mental wellbeing is something far too many people underprioritize investing in, but what is actually the price of good mental health?

For me it is without doubt some of the best money I have spent in a very long time, and I can warmly recommend Lyngemetoden.

Morten SkovborgDK · 5 reviewsApr 12, 2026
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I myself used Lyngemetoden in a 7…

I myself used Lyngemetoden in a 7 month program, and it has been the best investment in myself and my family. Never have I been so mentally strong, and my teenage children have also learned the best tools. I can only recommend Lyngemetoden.

Jesper Birk PedersenDK · 4 reviewsApr 20, 2026
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Top service and program

Top, top, top service and a really good program.
It is 3 years since I began listening to Lyngemetoden's podcast, and then I chose to buy their program. I still use the techniques today, and they have made a big difference for me and my family. But nothing comes by itself you have to work to get an improved life.

AndersDK · 31 reviewsApr 15, 2026

Want to change this? Here is how to start.

The question is not whether you can learn more about relationships. The question is whether you want to start showing up differently in the moments that keep creating the same problems.

If you are tired of holding things in, having the same argument again, feeling misunderstood, struggling to say no or depending too much on other people's reactions to feel okay, you can start working on those patterns now.

Learn to understand your own part more clearly. Say what you need earlier. Handle difficult conversations better. Set clearer boundaries. Build stronger relationships without disappearing inside them.

Start working on your relationships now

A structured digital mental training you can work through from home.
257 CADOne payment
  • About 52 days of structured training
  • Short daily videos
  • 13 practical mental and relationship tools
  • Worksheets and exercises
  • About 10 to 20 minutes a day
  • Immediate digital access
  • Access to the material afterwards
  • Work through it from home

Questions you may still have

Is this therapy?

No. This is digital mental training built around practical tools and repeated practice. It is not couples therapy, family therapy or a diagnosis, and it does not replace professional care when that is needed.

How much time does it take?

Most days are designed to take around 10 to 20 minutes. The full path is planned around about 52 days.

Do I need my partner or another person to do it with me?

No. The training focuses on the part of relationships you can work on yourself: your own patterns, communication, boundaries, reactions and choices.

Can I start straight away?

Yes. You get digital access as soon as checkout is complete.

What if the other person is the problem?

Sometimes another person's behaviour really is a major part of the problem. The training is not about taking responsibility for someone else's choices. It helps you get clearer on what is yours to change, what belongs to the other person and where you may need a boundary instead of another attempt to fix them.

Will this save my relationship?

No one can promise that. A relationship involves more than one person. The training is designed to help you improve the part you control, but it cannot make another person change or guarantee that a relationship will work.

What if there is violence, threats or controlling behaviour?

This training is not designed to fix abuse, violence, stalking, sexual coercion or coercive control. If that is part of your situation, seek appropriate professional or safety support instead.9

How quickly should I expect a difference?

There is no promise that everyone feels a specific change by a specific day. The training is built around repeated practice across about 52 days because the aim is to build skills you can keep using.

Sources

  1. Statistics Canada. You have got a friend in me. Social connection and loneliness data from the Canadian Social Survey, first quarter of 2024. Open source.
  2. Statistics Canada. Labour force characteristics by age group and sex, March 2024. The population aged 25 to 54 was approximately 15.8 million. Combined with the 14% loneliness rate for this age group reported in the Canadian Social Survey, this works out to about 2.2 million people. Open source.
  3. Overall, N. C. and McNulty, J. K. What Type of Communication during Conflict is Beneficial for Intimate Relationships? Review of relationship conflict and communication research. Open source.
  4. ABC News. Pink on couples counseling, communication and her marriage to Carey Hart. Open source.
  5. ABC News. Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard on couples counseling and working through differences. Open source.
  6. Systematic review and meta analysis of marriage and relationship programs and their effects on relationship satisfaction and communication. Open source.
  7. Lyngemetoden. Public information about Søren Lynge and his work. Open source.
  8. Trustpilot. Lyngemetoden reviews. Rating and review count checked September 21, 2026. Open source.
  9. Government of Canada. Information on family violence, including coercive control, stalking, threats and other forms of abuse. Open source.

If a relationship involves violence, threats, stalking, sexual coercion, coercive control or fear for someone's safety, ordinary relationship training is not the right tool. Seek appropriate professional or safety support.